Talking to yourself like you would to someone you love is exactly whats required to develop spirituality. If you can learn to love yourself, to develop that feeling of love that you have for someone else, for your own self, you will literally begin to have that feeling all the time. That feeling is something that is sought by all of us, we look to the external world for it. We believe that we must find someone to love, that someone out there will complete us. But that someone is not out in the world, it is you, within you. Love yourself, and you will feel complete. Love yourself, and you will be ready to give love to others, rather than wanting to take love from them. When you love yourself, you are empowered, you know that no one can ever take that love away from you, so you can go into all relationships, fearlessly. You cannot have fear, when you have nothing to lose.
Loving ourselves is exactly what society steers us away from, creating as many conflicts as possible, to make us judge ourselves, to make us feel unworthy, to make us have to look the best, or have the most money, or be the best at something to attract attention… it’s all a distraction to keep us from loving the most important thing, and that is literally yourself.
Love who you are, love your flaws, accept yourself. You are unique, you are special, no one else can be you, or replace you, you are perfect being imperfect, that is what beauty truly is. You are beautiful, just as you are. If you don’t like something about yourself, change it into something you do like, if you can’t change it, then accept it completely, because it wasn’t meant to be changed, so why wish it could be?
Live fully, in love, if you do this, you cannot judge or hate others, because judging and hating come from a lack of love for yourself, it’s all a reflection of what you haven’t made peace with, within you. Make peace with yourself, and you will make peace with the world. This is what gives you the power to give who you are to the world and it makes a difference.